Last week while at work my feelings were hurt due to some comments a girl had made regarding my weight and yes these are adults! My two assistance's and I were in my office talking about buying new uniforms for work. At my lunch time I had went out and bought some new uniforms, so I decided to show the girls. While I was holding a pair of uniform pants up another employee approached my office door and said, "Who's big pants are those." I didn't know what to say, I just looked at her and put my pants back in the bag. I just thought to myself, when did a size medium become big. This is an example of micro-insult. She intentionally approached me and put me down. This gave her power because she is smaller than me and she made me feel so bad about myself. This really hurt me because I have battled with weight my whole life and she has know idea what I have been through. My first reaction was thinking of things to say back to her, but that would only make me as low as her and I don't want that.
I have seen this week that people at times really don't realize how their words and actions hurt people. Words have so much power and they can destroy people's self-esteem and dignity. Hurtful comments and actions are hard to forget and they stay in the back of people's minds causing them to constantly judge themselves. I have also noticed that a lot of people do and say things to make themselves look and feel better. The truth is that they are jealous or have low self esteem themselves. I try to see the good in all people and try to treat people the way I would like to be treated.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Perspectives on Diversity and Culture
The three definitions I collected are as followed:
The first definition that I collected was from Christy. She defined culture as our surroundings and the way one is brought up. She defined diversity as; each person having unique characteristics that individualize them from others.
The second definition was from Tamara. She defined culture as; how you are brought up to live in your family. Diversity was defined as; each person's differences.
The third definition was from Larry. He defined culture as family's beliefs and values and how people live and behave. Diversity was defined as; each person's unique differences.
When I asked them to define these words each on of them had a hard time defining these words. Christy said, "I have know idea how to define these words because I have never really thought about it before." Even though their definitions were short I believe they done a good job getting their meaning across to others.
~ Which aspects of culture and diversity that I have studied in this course are included in the answers I received-and what are some examples.
From what I have gathered from each one's definition of culture, I believe we have studied on families beliefs and values, their surroundings, how their parent's raised them, were they live, and religion can be seen in these definition as it is a part of how families live. Their definitions relate to people's deep culture as it is relating to their values, beliefs, religion, and where they are from. To me these are important components to someone culture because it helps you become the person you are, how you carry yourself, and how respect not only yourself, but others as well.
~ Which aspects has been omitted- and what are some examples of such omissions?
Hierarchy was not mentioned, who is the boss of the family. Does the mom run the house, take care of the children, and handle the finances or does the dad go to work everyday and take care of the finances;
how is the home ran- is there rules to be followed and certain disciplinary actions for certain behaviors; is the family close or does the parent's encourage the children to do for themselves as possible; and what are their roles in the family. I believe are important issues to consider when defining your culture and diversity.
~ In what ways has thinking about other people's definitions of culture and diversity influence my own thinking about these topics?
As I talked to each of these very different and unique individuals, I seen just that "individuals." Every person in this world views the world differently and lives life to the fullest-the way they believe is the right way. God has created us with our own different unique characteristics and that is what makes us special and who we are. It is important to figure out who we truly are and be comfortable with that because if we can't accept ourselves we will never be able to accept others for who they are. This has made me realize we have to reach deep to really get to know some one and understand them because you will never truly know someone until you stop and listen to what they are saying and this all begins with respect.
The first definition that I collected was from Christy. She defined culture as our surroundings and the way one is brought up. She defined diversity as; each person having unique characteristics that individualize them from others.
The second definition was from Tamara. She defined culture as; how you are brought up to live in your family. Diversity was defined as; each person's differences.
The third definition was from Larry. He defined culture as family's beliefs and values and how people live and behave. Diversity was defined as; each person's unique differences.
When I asked them to define these words each on of them had a hard time defining these words. Christy said, "I have know idea how to define these words because I have never really thought about it before." Even though their definitions were short I believe they done a good job getting their meaning across to others.
~ Which aspects of culture and diversity that I have studied in this course are included in the answers I received-and what are some examples.
From what I have gathered from each one's definition of culture, I believe we have studied on families beliefs and values, their surroundings, how their parent's raised them, were they live, and religion can be seen in these definition as it is a part of how families live. Their definitions relate to people's deep culture as it is relating to their values, beliefs, religion, and where they are from. To me these are important components to someone culture because it helps you become the person you are, how you carry yourself, and how respect not only yourself, but others as well.
~ Which aspects has been omitted- and what are some examples of such omissions?
Hierarchy was not mentioned, who is the boss of the family. Does the mom run the house, take care of the children, and handle the finances or does the dad go to work everyday and take care of the finances;
how is the home ran- is there rules to be followed and certain disciplinary actions for certain behaviors; is the family close or does the parent's encourage the children to do for themselves as possible; and what are their roles in the family. I believe are important issues to consider when defining your culture and diversity.
~ In what ways has thinking about other people's definitions of culture and diversity influence my own thinking about these topics?
As I talked to each of these very different and unique individuals, I seen just that "individuals." Every person in this world views the world differently and lives life to the fullest-the way they believe is the right way. God has created us with our own different unique characteristics and that is what makes us special and who we are. It is important to figure out who we truly are and be comfortable with that because if we can't accept ourselves we will never be able to accept others for who they are. This has made me realize we have to reach deep to really get to know some one and understand them because you will never truly know someone until you stop and listen to what they are saying and this all begins with respect.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
My Family Culture
If my family and I had to be moved to another country due to a catastrophe what three items would I take with me?
1.) My picture of a weeping angel. This picture was drawn and given to me when my younger brother was diagnosed with cancer. This picture represents our faith and strength as a family to support one another.
2.) My wedding ring because it represents the love, the trust, and commitment I have for my husband and best friend. It represents my past, present, and future that I have with him and the family we will have.
3.) My Bible I received the day I was baptised because I know having the Bible to read will give me and my family hope and faith because amazing things can happen when you have an open heart and believe.
All three of these items mean so much to me because they all represent my family and our bond. We are a close family who believes in the lord and knows that he gives us strength to make it through difficult obstacles in our lives. However, if I could only chose one item from the three it would be my Bible because the other two are just material things. Our love, faith, and memories will still be strong and we will still be together as a family. The Bible will keep our spirits lifted and remind us of how blessed and lucky we are to have each other.
This exercise has opened my eyes and made me realize how my life evolves around my family. My family is my support and my life. I have learned that not all families see this as true because they want you to be independent and do things on your own which is fine in some cases. However, my family encourages and supports each other in whatever decision they make in life just as long as we are true to ourselves. I don't believe there is a right way or wrong way to raise a family and support a family as long as there is love and respect present.
1.) My picture of a weeping angel. This picture was drawn and given to me when my younger brother was diagnosed with cancer. This picture represents our faith and strength as a family to support one another.
2.) My wedding ring because it represents the love, the trust, and commitment I have for my husband and best friend. It represents my past, present, and future that I have with him and the family we will have.
3.) My Bible I received the day I was baptised because I know having the Bible to read will give me and my family hope and faith because amazing things can happen when you have an open heart and believe.
All three of these items mean so much to me because they all represent my family and our bond. We are a close family who believes in the lord and knows that he gives us strength to make it through difficult obstacles in our lives. However, if I could only chose one item from the three it would be my Bible because the other two are just material things. Our love, faith, and memories will still be strong and we will still be together as a family. The Bible will keep our spirits lifted and remind us of how blessed and lucky we are to have each other.
This exercise has opened my eyes and made me realize how my life evolves around my family. My family is my support and my life. I have learned that not all families see this as true because they want you to be independent and do things on your own which is fine in some cases. However, my family encourages and supports each other in whatever decision they make in life just as long as we are true to ourselves. I don't believe there is a right way or wrong way to raise a family and support a family as long as there is love and respect present.
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